The fact is that all couples eventually have conflict. It is normal, it is natural, it is human. Every human is wired for connection and we have basic attachment needs that drive our relationships.
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OCPD Can Ruin Your Relationship
As long as OCD stays in its lane, it’s not something to worry about. In fact, orderliness and attention to detail is a good thing. My husband is great at hanging pictures, doing taxes, and handling all the administrative details of our counseling practice. And we can laugh about his OCD. It’s not a problem. But OCD can become a problem if it becomes OCPD, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder.
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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship
We need closeness and belonging as much as we need food and water. When our brain perceives that a primary relationship is in danger, it goes into overdrive to save it and triggers the attachment style we learned as children. The problem is that only one attachment style is healthy; the others, ironically, are destructive to the relationship they are employed by the brain to save.