How to Rekindle the Spark in Your Relationship

How to Rekindle the Spark in Your Relationship

Your relationship started with an explosion of emotion and “lovin’ feelings,” but somewhere along the line the lost that spark and you don’t know how to get it back.  The good news is that it is possible to rekindle the spark in your relationship.  But first, let’s understand what that spark is.

Relationship Skills That Work - Part 1

Relationship Skills That Work - Part 1

No one in a relationship wants it to fail.  Obviously, couples want their relationship to work and last a lifetime.  But how?  What is the secret to making a relationship work?  It clearly doesn’t happen all by itself just because they love each other.  What are the relationship skills that make a relationship work for life?

How To Stop Fighting And Start Loving

How To Stop Fighting And Start Loving

In an ever-escalating cycle of conflict, one partner stridently pursues and the other partner avoidantly withdraws. It’s a script written in the subconscious mind by past experiences that when certain things happen, we are not safe and must either push in or pull away to find safety.  This “push-pull” is at the heart of all relational conflict.  To break that cycle of conflict, first you must understand your role in it.  You are either the pursuer or the withdrawer.

Weekend Marriage Counseling: The Couples Intensive

Weekend Marriage Counseling: The Couples Intensive

What if there was a way to accomplish in 2-3 days what normally takes months of week-to-week marriage counseling?  If your schedule makes weekly couple counseling difficult, or if you want to get in a better place quickly, I have good news: SoulCare offers a private weekend marriage counseling intensive. 

Emotionally Focused Therapy For PTSD

Emotionally Focused Therapy For PTSD

If you have been through a traumatic event like a bad accident, a natural disaster, a violent attack, or combat, sometime after the event you are probably experiencing post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD.  After trying to manage it yourself, you have now come to realize that you need professional help.  the good news is that SoulCare Counseling uses a model of therapy that is especially effective with PTSD.

How To Repair An Attachment Injury

How To Repair An Attachment Injury

Sometimes we intend to, sometimes we don’t; sometimes the injuries are small like emotional paper cuts and heal quickly, sometimes the wounds fester and stay open for years.  The latter type of injury is the subject of this blog, injuries to the level of trust between two partners. Therapists call these type of injuries “attachment injuries.”  What is an attachment injury and how can it be repaired?

3 Ways To Get The Best Results From Couples Counseling

3 Ways To Get The Best Results From Couples Counseling

The research on EFT is impressive.  90% of couples who go through EFT significantly improve their relationship and 70-75% move out of relationships distress after treatment.  Compare that to the next leading couples therapy at a 35% success rate.  So, doing couples counseling with a counselor trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy gives your relationship a huge advantage, but here are some tips for getting the most out of the EFT process.

When You're Married But Feel Alone

When You're Married But Feel Alone

You are married, yet you feel alone both physically and emotionally.  You and your spouse are gone from sunup to sundown.  When you are both at home, you eat dinner while watching television.  On the weekends, one of you goes to the mall and the other goes to the golf course.  You are together all alone.  This is not what you signed up for when you said “I do.”  What happened?

Four Ways To Manage Family Stress During The Holidays

Four Ways To Manage Family Stress During The Holidays

Holiday stress comes from a variety of sources such as gift-giving, travel, and overeating.  But one of the most common stressors during the holidays is family drama.   Perhaps because we are already stressed by the other factors, we tend to be more sensitive to the things that family members can do that set us off.   So, here are four tips for managing family stress during the holidays.