One of the worst things that can happen to any marriage is an affair. We see it all the time in marriage counseling, a relationship in tatters from infidelity. The good news is that, after an affair the relationship wound can be repaired, but the bad news is that the scar will always be there. The best healing is prevention, and one way to prevent an affair is to understand the subtle way it can start.
How Trauma Affects Relationships
As therapists who work with Emotionally Focused Therapy, we see both the pain and power of intimacy. Ironically, love can hurt us but love can also heal us. The bitter and the sweet are in the same fountain. An intimate relationship, when it loses safety and security, can be a torture chamber inflicting pain. But when safety and security are in place, it can be a healing chamber healing pain. That is the goal of EFT.
The Best Treatment For Anxiety And Depression
Many mental health professionals pathologize depression and anxiety. That is, they see these issues as illnesses, which they then label and treat with medical approaches. But in Emotionally Focused Therapy, we don’t think of anxiety or depression as mental illnesses; rather we group them together as emotional disorders. EFT therapists see people as emotional beings seeking connection above all.
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No parent looks at their newborn baby and envisions a day when that sweet little one will experience a traumatic event. But the Center for Child Trauma Assessment Services and Interventions cites a recent study which found that approximately 65% of children experience at least one traumatic event during…
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Understanding Trauma
So, trauma is not an event; but it is the brain’s response to what it perceives as a threat to or loss of safety. Because of that, trauma is not a societal standard of what is suffering and what is not. It is personal and unique to the individual. Thus, there is no reason to be too embarrassed to talk about our trauma.